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  • LADYL Anyone any experience with being married to a gambler/compulsive liar? Married almost 5 years.. Left him 2 yrs ago for him to straighten himself out.. He did and went to GA meetings etc and when I moved back 4 wks later the lying started again. Got to stage where I couldn't tell when he was lying or not. When he was caught out lying he would deny it, usually sulk and sleep in spare room and then blame and twist the situation onto me. Our sex life suffered because I didn't feel connected anymore due to the constant lying and catching him out about money. He wasn't paying rent an stuff and we ended up wing asked to leave our house. I broke with him at Xmas and was fine for 3 months.. Now I feel worse than ever and wider should I give him another chance. Not sure how I would cope seeing him with someone else. He has begged me back for months but nothing has changed- still owes people money and has lost friends and even got kicked out of his last place for not paying rent.. He tells me he has changed but I know he hasn't. Should I give him another chance? Will it ever change? Advice please from anyone in similar circumstance. Thanks 3 years ago   *   7 replies
    • LOU I am married to someone with a similar problem and it won't stop until they seek professional help an maintain it. U can't help them. They can only help themselves and from my experience the mistrust will drive u mad. I am turning my back after 15 years because I feel it's destroyed our foundations. 3 years ago
      • brooklynblue i disagree re the professional help. i really think 12 steps are the most effective for addictions. 3 years ago
    • erinnn Time to gamble (pun intended) on YOU. Not him. 3 years ago
    • splitter Unless an addict does a Full 180 and abstains from their addiction- there is no hope. 3 years ago
    • dadofthree run. don't walk. this is a losing hand. i don't mean to be glib. you scream of codependency. seeing him with someone else is the least of your problems right now. focus on you. 3 years ago
    • ZAGABRO Sounds like my ex. We separated in 2008, divorce was finalized in 2012, and he's still just the same as he was before, if not worse. Run from him, and don't look back. 3 years ago
    • CSCHIEL82 Reading this and am crying. This is my exact situation right now and the reason I am getting a divorce.... The final straw was when he wipes out our health savings account at the casino. When I confronted him about it his response was that he told me he had a problem and I did nothing to help him. Which is nothing but a lie. I have tried getting him into meetings or rehab(he has a drug problem as well) he always came up with an excuse why he couldn't go. I believe he got kicked out of his house too due to not paying rent, he's burned too many bridges. They can only change if they want to and get help. Read codependent no more by melody vestries, it has helped me to stay strong and tell him no. 3 years ago
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