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  • Tiffany Dating in front of your kids can have very negative consequences. Older children have said that as one parent dated, they would get attached to the new adult in their life. Then, when things didn't work out, it was devastating for them. The other parent did not date in front of the children, and those (now adult) children said that in the single-parent home was where they felt most comfortable and secure. 3 years ago   *   9 replies
    • Unsure It can be very confusing for children. If you're dating someone they shouldn't even be around your kids until it is serious and you truly feel the relationship is going somewhere 3 years ago
    • movingon My ex has introduced 3 or 4 girlfriends to our child - that was within the first 6 months after we separated. I have introduced NO ONE - I've even asked my daughter how she feels... does she want to know about my dates, help me to choose outfits, hear about a funny thing that happened at dinner? Her answer: "NO! I don't want to know ANYTHING unless it's serious." I'm wondering why she feels incredibly comfortable meeting her father's girlfriends, but thinks her mother should be a nun. I have men who are JUST friends in my life, and she tends be cold toward them. Cold toward anyone who may find her mother attractive. It's like I've replaced her father's possessiveness and jealousy with my daughter's. Not really a question here... just venting 3 years ago
      • TIMBUKTU that is really interesting. i really think it's a fine line between letting the kids own you and run your life and being a responsible adult and exposing them to people in your life that you think are appropriate. 3 years ago
      • Unsure Maybe he didn't give her the option and since you did you're able to know how she truly feels 3 years ago
    • MAxI My parents did this when I was much younger, around 12. My mom was careful about asking us what we thought, but all I can remember is being confused and not knowing what to make of it. I think I may have lost some trust in my parents during that time, and it was lost for good. 3 years ago
      • 12345 i have been dating someone for about 2 years. we took some time off here and there. my kids have hung out with him occasionally during the day but no sleepovers. and they know "mommy has a boyfriend". I have been sad or distracted a few times and they knew it was because of the boyfriend and i feel really guilty about that. i wonder if they have lost their trust in me. 3 years ago
    • karenr That was totally the case in my situation. I dated one guy when my son was 3 for 1 1/2 yrs. The bf loved my son and my son loved him but neither of us wanted the same thing so we broke up amicably but my son was very affected so I never again let any bfs really be around my son. 3 years ago
      • TDOG i feel like my son isnt warming up to my boyfriend and not sure what to do to encourage it. been trying to keep it all very no-pressure. i think my son is still mad i am no longer with his father. 3 years ago
    • MsBantam If even after over a year you don't feel you can bring your boyfriend around your child, how will you ever know how authentic the relationship is? Being a parent is a huge part of who you are, and the relationship between you and your child is arguably the most important in your life. If after a year you still haven't combined those two parts of your life, how can you ever know if it will work? 2 years ago
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