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  • SallyAlexis Finances are always a problem in divorce. Even though there is a divorce decree that states each parties responsibility sometimes we go out of our way to contribute more to our children. My ex is always asking my daughter to come to me to help her pay her medical bills. She is 23, and I don't. Ind helping her when I can, but I resent that he puts her up to this. He is a physician and has plenty of money. I haven't been able to get a job since the divorce. Any thoughts on how I can handle this without upsetting my daughter? 10 years ago   *   4 replies
    • AMpr411 Hi Sallyalexis I think you should talk honestly with your daughter, she is not a little girl, at 23 she would be more than capable to understand your actual position. I will suggest don't attack his father, just let her know you don't have enough incomes at present but as soon as you find the way to be independent you will be more than happy to help her more, be humble and show her your weakness at this moment, its nothing wrong on that, but promise to yourself that you will pass for this situation soon. Good luck, she will understand you! 10 years ago
    • mccoytammi@gmail.com Hello Sallyalexis I absolutely agree with Ampr411...your daughter will surely understand just be honest with her. I believe also your daughter will start telling your ex...that she's not going to ask you anymore. That has to be strain on her too and not a comfortable conversation to have with you. Good luck. 10 years ago
    • thenooge I agree. She is old enough to understand that it's not realistic for you to be paying her medical bills. But if she desperately needs financial help, it's sort of her responsibility to be fair about who she asks -- getting help from you and your husband, not just you all the time. 10 years ago
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