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  • Cloughie Getting divorced because we have no relationship other than through our kids - We had sex maybe 5 times in the last 4 years. His choice, but it killed any desire I had for him. I like sex and I used to do it a lot but I can't imagine ever being in a situation to have it again! My confidence is zero and I look like shit, how can I get my mojo back? I am a long way off being ready for a relationship but a fun hook up would be nice. 7 years ago   *   2 replies
    • plasterdust Hey!!!! I'm at the same sex to year ratio as you. Many folks on this site recommended stuff like self actualization and individuation to re-mojo-ize. Like, get your mojo back without relying on someone else. Took me about a year, found a way to get fit, got some style back, forget all the negative reinforcement that caused me to lose self confidence...and stop drinking too much to block it all out. Of course, I also popped on Tinder to see if anyone hot would swipe right for me...when I got a few matches I bailed, but golly gee, just to know someone was actually interested was a big boost. Hope this helps! 7 years ago
    • Stuckinla I am in a similar situation - am amazed at how little sex and intimacy I have had with my wife pretty much since our marriage began 8 years ago. We blame it on having kids but I am just not into her at all anymore but have been too paralyzed to make the move to end it since she doesn't want out and won't even talk about ending it. But I feel scared and guilty. 7 years ago
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