Hello all- I've been married for 12 years to my second husband and am really struggling with the inner voice telling me it's over. I have no sexual desire towards him and feel our relationship is lacking any type of intimacy. He's a nice guy and everyone thinks so, but I am pretending and have reached a point where I cant do it anymore. I have 2 children from my first marriage but none with the current husband. I keep trying to convince myself that sex isn't all that important, but we just don't connect on anything anymore- I find myself day dreaming about buying a little cottage without him and starting a new life. I guess my fear is the hassle of the divorce process and the split process. But, I feel I've lost who I am and feel I'm wasting my years and time staying in this relationship- my kids thin he's ok but he's never really bonded overly with them- they are older (20&17) so at least that's easier. Arggh I guess I'm just rambling now I've been stuffing these feelings down for years now because he is a nice enough guy but I guess just not for me.