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  • Self doubt Hello. First time postimg. I am married for 17 ueats with 2 kids. The marriage has always been easy. Several months ago i had an affair...much to my surprise. Huge emotional connextion and physical relationship outisde of my marriage. It was a choice. I followed my heart. The relationship was brief, highly emotional, and its ending was really emotionally traumatic for me. It broke me. Several months of therapy has allowed me to realize that i was open to the affair because my marriage has little or no intimate emotional connection. I have realized that my husband has never been emotionally available and has not really participated in the marriage. Since he and i discussed this (BTW he does NOT know about the other relationship) he has committed to becoming a better version of himself. I feel like im not interested. Its too late for me. I want something different. I dont want to feel suffocated in a marriage anymore. I want to create my own story. I want to see other men. I want the emotions that felt with the other man! Im afraid ill never feel that agin. I know i wont feel it in my marriage. Im nervous to leave the marriage. Concerned for my kids and the overall impact. Trying not to care what other people think. Frustrated that society thinks we should be married forever. I have not agreed to go to marriage counseling. I dont think it will help. I feel an aversion to my husband , and i feel mad at him.i want out almost all of the time, but worry if this could be a temporary feeling. 8 months ago i was living life with my head in the sand. The other guys stirred feelongs that i barely knew i was caoable of...and my wants and needs have changed. (The other guy, by the way is no longer an option. He made it prefectly clear that he wants nothing to do with the break up of a family...so i am trying to clear him of my mind...although i think of him daily.) Can anyone relate to this? 2 months ago   *   1 replies
    • AMBER Hi everyone am AMBER ERIN, I do hope my post gets read and hopefully helps somebody along the line.i will never forget the help the wonderful spell caster Dr Larry render to me in my marital life. i have been married for 4 years now and my husband and i love each other very dearly . after 4 years of our marriage my husband suddenly change he was having an affair with a lady outside, i notice it then i was praying for divine intervention but nothing happen. my husband just came home one day he pick up his things and left me and the kids to his mistress house.. At this time i was confuse not knowing what to do. i was so depressed and had to tell a friend who told me how a spiritualist helped her out with her marital problems so i contacted him and i told him my problem and after he made some consultations he told me what went wrong with my husband and how it happened, that he will restore my marriage but i never believe him. To my greatest surprise 3 days after he has cast the spell my husband came to my office begging me on his knees that i should find a place in my heart to forgive him that he is very sorry for everything he has done to me and the kids .... now am happy we living happily with my husband and kids...thanks to the help of the great Spiritualist Dr Larry, contact him with any problem and am sure he will help email assurancesolutionhome@gmail.com website https://assurancesolutionhome.blogspot.com http://assurancesolutionhome.website2.me/ whatsapp him on +1(424)-261-8520 1 month ago
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