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  • KSDBT Hello. I need help. I've been with my husband for 13 years, married for 7. We have an amazing little girl. A few years ago I met someone else and fell in love. I never thought I would do this. I love my husband but we aren't compatible. The person that I fell in love with became my best friend and we have helped each other through so much. For 3 years I've been miserable with the guilt, the deception and the pain that I knew I was causing this amazing person. My husband and I are struggling financially. Last week he was fired from his job. Last night he found proof of my cheating. I admitted to everything. I was honest about all of it and told him that I wanted to leave him. We have no money. I have no idea what the next steps are. He is in so much pain and he is so angry. He can't speak to me, let alone look at me. I am overwhelmed with guilt. I don't know what to do next. I don't know where to begin. If anyone can offer some advice, some encouragement, I need all of the help I can get. 4 years ago   *   1 replies
    • splitter you are a human being. you are flawed as is he. i reject the idea that we are bad people if we discover another person to love. have you done work to understand what drew you to your husband in the fisrt place? you know...... just because someone else is different, doesnt mean they are THE ONE. we are in relationship to experience OURSELVES differently........ what are you doing to help with the financial crisis? please tell me you work! 4 years ago
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