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Johninabq
Hi everyone..
I'm new here. I'm still trying to figure out what cupboards and closets in this place work, but here's my story:
On March 4th of this year, I arrived home to find my spouse of 29+ years (soon to be ex-spouse) in an "intimate situation" with an old boyfriend in our Seattle area home. It was the old boyfriend she had years ago before we met. The next day I found out that she had been seeing this guy for a while (months at least), and that she was filing for divorce. I had been a stay-at-home dad for several years, caring for our son who has autism.
About two and a half weeks after that, I checked myself into a local hospital. I had not eaten since March 4th, I had lost almost 30 pounds, and I had no desire to eat. While I was in the hospital, she effectively kicked me out of the house. I'm not sure why, as far as I'm concerned she's the "bad guy," not me. She cheated, not me. When I got out of the hospital, I had no job, no money (she had moved money), and no home. I do not have any family or anyone in that community who could take me in, so I was about to go to a homeless shelter.
One of my sons lives in New Mexico; he and my daughter-in-law offered to fly me to their home and let me stay with them while I get a job, get back on my feet, and heal. They've also loaned me some money to retain an attorney back in the old community.
This has been a nightmare for me. In less than a month, I lost my marriage, lost my home, lost access to money, and I have felt at times like I've lost my mind too. I've had nightmares about seeing her in bed with that guy. I've started putting on some weight, but I am in need of serious healing.
I love my new city, but this is probably the hardest thing I've ever gone through.