Hi, I'm new here. I wanted to ask you all for some advice/perspective/insight. I'm at the precipice of leaving an abusive marriage - a relationship in which I was endlessly controlled, isolated, disrespected, demeaned, and suffocated all in the name of "obsessive love". I know now that my husband is suffering from a personality disorder, and that he is truly incapable of understanding how much he has hurt me, abused our marriage, destroyed my trust in him, and burned down all my hopes and dreams of what-could-have-been between us. After living separately for almost 2 years, I'm more than certain he can't change, he won't change, and he can't be the man I thought him to be the day I committed to him. Am I wrong to leave a man like him? Is it wrong for me to walk away from a husband who is in the grasps of a personality disorder? Does he need me now more than ever? Or am I doing the right thing by walking away? Am I saving myself (and my two little precious sons) by leaving him? Does anyone else here have experience dealing with a spouse who is suffering from a personality disorder and has a psychological condition that disallows him/her to behave "normally" in an intimate relationship? I'm open to any words of wisdom, advice, stories, perspectives, and opinions. As much as I have convinced myself I must leave him, I'm finding it very hard to cut off the emotional ties.