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fencesitting
How do you know when it's over?
Married 10 years, two kids. In and out of couples therapy, now both going to individual. I've been thinking about our marriage and where it is.
I have changed and my partner has not. We talk about changing, but I am not sure the other side of this equation is capable. In some ways you are who you are.
Sometimes I wonder how I will know when and if to call it done. I think I haven't been happy in this for a lot longer than I ever knew.
Lately I've been thinking about a past long term relationship and having that realization, "this is just not going anywhere". I don't know that I am there yet. Bu tI feel like I'm inching ever closer.
Also I've been in touch with another person and that individual is experiencing similar issues and been very supportive. We have not met face to face since being back in touch. And while my friend's help is not why I think about leaving it has opened my mind to the thought that I should be happier. The thing that complicates this is that if my marriage did end, I would definitely want to pursue something with my friend should that situation change as well.
Sorry if this is a lot. My first post and I'm unloading.
Thanks in advance.