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  • Self doubt I am actually 43 and a female. Had trouble getti g the drop down to accept those selections! 13 days ago   *   2 replies
    • Becky I’m going through something very similar. Very similar. This really resonated with me. I think once you breathe that fresh air again it’s like wow. No emotional intimacy in my marriage either and it’s a huge thing to accept but I don’t think it’s something I want to go on living without. 10 days ago
      • Self doubt Hey BECKY. Thanks for responding. Good to know I'm not the only person going through this... and at the same time, sorry that youre going though this. The past few months have been so difficult. Im finally starting to feel more like myself. Able to cope with the loss of the other guy, but still with moments and days of sadness. I told my husband that i want to separate. Most of the time im pretty sure that i want too get divorced, but iam so afraid of fucking up, leaving a good man and a decent marriage, putting my kids through such challenges, having my kids live in 2 houses etc. I think that in the end i would be happier, but i feel selfish for making a change that impacts my kids that is for my benefit. So, we're in a holding pattern at home, waiting on my next move. Not sure if ican go through with it it not. Trying to accept myself and my feelings and give myself add much time as i need. I don't want to stay in my marriage just because it's easier. Argh.... 8 days ago
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