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  • Bianca I am in an loveless marriage for 13 years, we now have 4 kids. I was never attracted to my husband but he is a great guy, father and friend. I married him because sex was not a priority bak then and I was emotionally weak due to past failures so I only cared to find a "good guy" and neglect any romantic, passionate and emotional spect in my relationship. My husband is not even they guy I would date back then... Today I simply want to divorce and be free again. Everyone around me says that I should stay for the kids and a few say that I should go ahead and divorce. I am absolutely out of my mind not to mention that I have talked to my husband and he knows my feelings. He is deeply hurt and angry but he controls himself and his reactions. 7 years ago   *   3 replies
    • brooklynblue i was in this exact situation and i left. it's 6 years later, and while not easy navigating relationships where there IS sexual attraction, it's been worth it. not easy - but worth it. 7 years ago
    • Over_And_done Don't stay for the kids. I grew up with parents that didn't love each other. My Dad made the money and my Mom cared for us. That's the only reason they stayed. It affected me deeply. So deeply that I repeated the process and am now splitting from my dead-end unhappy marriage. I have two kids and I refuse to teach them that women are doormats. I will be strong, for them and especially for myself. 6 years ago
    • mike T I just ended my marriage of 19 years and I tried to stick it out for the kids for the last 5 and all I did was waste money and energy trying to make this person happy. My marriage was over 13 years ago and I tried to go to counseling and retreats or anything she wanted and her attitude towards me never changed. Unlike your Ex my does not control herself and has had numerous outbursts in front of our 4 children. Now that I am finally divorced I look back at those years as wasted because I could have been further along in this crazy thing called divorce. 6 years ago
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