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  • kay26 I can't decide whether to leave my marriage or not. I am currently 24 and have been with my husband since I was 19, but we have been married less than a year. He's a great guy, has his head on straight, in school, doesn't drink/do drugs, never yells or fights with me.. but he is VERY emotionally cold and is a very independent person. People call him a robot because he seriously has no emotions and acts like he has no feelings, which naturally makes him a pretty unaffectionate person. I am the complete opposite. I am SUPER affectionate, very emotional, very passionate. The difference in this category between us is starting to take a toll on me. I CRAVE emotion and passion in a relationship, and I've never gotten that sort of connection with him. I married him because I do love him, we never ever fight, he doesn't even really get mad about things, he's a great looking guy (a great guy in general), he does love me... so is it stupid that I'm thinking about leaving? On the outside looking in, everything looks fine. I've had relationships in the past with extreme passion and connection so I know what it feels like and I'm really missing it now. I turn my husband down for sex ALL the time (which I know is wrong) but it feels like a chore and it almost feels awkward sometimes. Also, he's never been really into kissing (which is another thing that I love and am now craving) so we don't do more than peck kisses like you would give your mom or something. I don't think that's how someone who is 24 and married less than a year should feel with their husband. Can someone give me some advice? Am I being immature by wanting to leave? Are my feelings valid? 7 years ago   *   3 replies
    • Highschoolunsweetheart I don't think you're being immature at all. I think deep down we all know what we need from our partner, intimacy, support, friendship, etc. and it is different for everyone. If you are feeling it, then it is valid. 7 years ago
    • linda69 I don't fully understand if you desire him or not. If you do, I think you can still save your marriage. You could try talking to him about how you feel (if you didn't already). But if you don't desire him AND he is very unaffectional, maybe you're right about wanting to leave. 7 years ago
    • Lolo I know it has been a few moths since your post, but I have just read this. Sounds like you have a nice guy there really. If he does not yell at you and he loves you, that is important. You find him attractive and he is good looking, lucky you. I would hang onto him. You maybe should become affectionate with him and he probably will then will gradually enjoy and reciprocate. Shouldn't not be difficult as you find him great looking. Start now, otherwise time will pass and you will be set in your ways as a couple and you will become bitter if the situation does not change. Maybe he came from a family that did not display affection? 6 years ago
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