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lifelonglearner
I feel incredibly depressed. I am graduate student, and the mind-eating stress related to my crumbling relationship (engaged since two months ago, to someone I've dated on-and-off) is almost guaranteeing I'm going to flunk out of grad school. I feel caught in that horrible "I don't know whether to stay, and work on it, or whether to give up and move on" limbo. While I initially thought my fiance was kind, and he sometimes really can be, what brought me to this is that he has some arrogance issues. He seems to think he knows a lot about certain topics, and criticizes others' work/research (including areas of research I'm interested in), and it just drives me up a wall. I've told him how I felt about that, and he seems to just now avoid talking about those topics. Well, this is not working for me. I want to be in a relationship where no topic is forbidden from discussion. And all I want is some humility, but I don't know if he will ever change. I'm giving myself time, because I don't want to rush this decision, but right now - I'm quite unsure whether or not this relationship can be salvaged. I guess the problem is, I do have feelings for this person - I just dislike his behaviour/attitude in some cases. Meanwhile, my personal mental health is falling apart under the stress of both grad school and a dysfunctional relationship. Off to therapy I go. *tears welling up in eyes* Thank you for reading. I would welcome any insights, or just a word of encouragement. Wishing everyone here all the best.