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  • london I have a question for anyone in a committed relationship/married: Does a threesome HELP or HURT a relationship? Does this mean he wants to have sex with another woman and this is his way of telling me? Or does a threesome help to keep things interesting like he claims? I need answers please. 3 years ago   *   18 replies
    • Downtherabbithole IT'S BOTH. MEN WANT TO BANG OTHER WOMEN, THAT'S JUST THE NATURE OF THE BEAST. IF HE SAYS HE DOES NOT THAT'S A LITTLE WHITE LIE NO HARM THERE, HE JUST DOESN'T WANT TO HURT YOU/IT'S A PRIMAL URGE. HE WANTS TO HAVE A 3-SOME BECAUSE IT WOULD BE AWESOME TO HAVE YOU AND ANOTHER WOMAN PLAYING WITH EACH OTHER AND TO GET IN THERE WOULD BE A LOT OF FUN. IF HE WANTED TO CHEAT ON YOU HE WOULD, HE WANTS TO SHARE AN EXCITING EXPERIENCE. YOU SHOULD GO FOR IT! 3 years ago
      • london Thanks for the insight... Now should this woman be someone I know and trust? I fear doing that. I don't want to look at my best friend and always be reminded Of our rendezvous. 3 years ago
        • Downtherabbithole Definitely go with a stranger or acquaintance. You're right you don't want to create a triangle type of situation with a close friend. Maybe find a girl online? Craigslist/escort service? Maybe just start going to some bars and clubs together and see what you can muster up. Could be fun for the 2 of you to find some girl and seduce her. What's your feeling about this is it something you want to do? 3 years ago
    • strugglecity I have this question too!!! It's actually something I really want to try. Haven't had the courage yet, and I've thought about it and here's what I've come up with: I wouldn't want it to be a friend or someone I'm close with (what if it gets weird and I can never talk to her again) it would have to be a hot stranger. Hot, even hotter than me, doesn't matter (I mean, if I'm going to do girl-on-girl I don't want it to be with an ugly one), but that being said, I would want a girl that's a different "type" than me (different race, hair color, proportions, whatever) so I feel like we're not competing because we're so different. Haven't made the leap though because I don't like sharing. 3 years ago
      • Downtherabbithole Don't think of it as sharing, find fun in being with another woman. Think of it this way; you'll have a soft woman who understands your body and how it needs to be touched, caressed etc. Find a way for you to enjoy it, and make it about you not him. Maybe do it on a vacation! That could be a great way to spice things up. 3 years ago
        • strugglecity I like that! I'm the one that's getting "shared." ;) Vacations help. Drugs will too, I'm sure. 3 years ago
          • Downtherabbithole Be careful! Maybe just some wine/champagne. Last thing you want is a od or something wrong happening with those drugs. Have them cater to you! 3 years ago
          • london LOL... I like your response StruggleCity. I cannot DARE to think that my boyfriend would be interested in another woman more than me. The reason I don't want it being someone I know is because I fear that my boyfriend will tr and contact her behind my back. He has never cheated before, but you never know. I guess in a way it would make me kind of jealous to see him with another woman. This was totally his idea; he brought it up to me and I have been saying NO for the past year. Finally, he asked again and I decided maybe it wouldn't be THAT bad to invite someone in. But what if I want to put stipulations on this. They can both touch me but they cannot touch each other... He wouldn't like the experience would he? 3 years ago
    • dynamic LOL! :D This is a funny one. Based on your comment, you must be the female in the relationship. To directly answer the question without going on a tangent, sex and love are two different things in a man's mind. As DOWNTHERABBITHOLE stated, if wants to cheat, he will. He's not telling you anything other than what he's saying. He want's something exciting and to do it with you. The solo option (cheating) is always there. And yes, I concur that the third party should be someone you don't know well. However it depends on the personality type of the both of you. There are no absolutes in this situation, but good general guidelines. 3 years ago
      • strugglecity I agree that love is different than sex! That's a good way of putting it, and it's really nice that he wants to experiment, but he wants to do it with you. I personally haven't taken a threesome off the table, I'm just waiting for the right circumstances. 3 years ago
    • Downtherabbithole Did you hear about the vacation option? I think that would really help you! Go to the beach and find some harlot and have some fun! 3 years ago
      • dynamic Or just go to Vegas! Guaranteed to have that option there! 3 years ago
        • london Oooooh VEGAS!!!!! Now that's a good idea :) We can have some drinks, get a little buzzed and have some fun. I just don't want to agree to this and then it becomes an ongoing thing. I am agreeing to do this ONE time. Have any of you been in a threesome? Can you tell me how it was? Did everyone touch everyone? Did you get jealous when your mate touched another person? 3 years ago
          • london LOL... I like your response StruggleCity. I cannot DARE to think that my boyfriend would be interested in another woman more than me. The reason I don't want it being someone I know is because I fear that my boyfriend will tr and contact her behind my back. He has never cheated before, but you never know. I guess in a way it would make me kind of jealous to see him with another woman. This was totally his idea; he brought it up to me and I have been saying NO for the past year. Finally, he asked again and I decided maybe it wouldn't be THAT bad to invite someone in. But what if I want to put stipulations on this. They can both touch me but they cannot touch each other... He wouldn't like the experience would he? 3 years ago
            • BeautyQueen I would be slightly upset if my boyfriend asked me to have a threesome, but not so mad if I proposed it. The likelihood of that happening though is slim to none. I want one though. 3 years ago
            • dynamic That's probably the #1 reason people don't do threesomes. It's not worth the potential destruction of the relationship if you already have a good thing going. But then again, I'm not a gambling man (though I'll meet you in Vegas!) :P 3 years ago
    • LAURAMIDDLE You should only have a threesome if the idea turns you on and your totally into it! Not because you want to make your partner happy. It could go very wrong for your emotions, and it's just to big a risk to take if you don't feel sure. There are loads of other ways to spice up your sex life until you decide if a threesome is something your really interested in trying! 3 years ago
      • anon13 Any of you on this actually been involved in one though? Curious what your experience was, especially if it helped or hurt the relationship. 2 years ago
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