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  • Bunhead I split with my husband in July. We are close to signing our agreement. I met someone a few months later and we've been seeing each other for 5 months. I like him so much. We have a great time together, we talk we have fun , sex is off the charts . I'd like to see him more than once every 2 weeks but he has a busy life. I'm just wanting more than what he can give . We are fantastic together I think. I don't want to spend 24hrs a day with him I'd just like to see him a little more , maybe for a lunch every other week when I can't sleep over , or to speak to him a little more often. I'm sure I am coming off as needy but I have a wonderful life , friends , job. It took me so long to get out of a torturous emotionally abusive relationship and now I find myself involved with someone who is totally emotionally unavailable . I know I should probably just save myself the agony but it is so so good when we are together. I don't know what to do. Back off and enjoy it for what it is.and hopefully it will turn into something Or save myself the tears and pain of possibly getting my heart broken . It already feels a little broken anyway . I feel so incredibly sad. 8 years ago   *   5 replies
    • plasterdust Wow, you answered all your own questions here! Pretty sure there's no "right" answer, only what you choose...which is inevitably the right choice. 8 years ago
      • Bunhead I ended up asking for more and drove him right away, didn't think i was asking for that much but so it goes . so stupid because I really loved the time I spent with him. who knows maybe in the future... 8 years ago
        • plasterdust Kudos to you for being truthful and expressing what you need. You 100% did the right thing and as some random Splitsville persona I say, "Way to go, full support, even if it's painful." Nobody knows what the future holds but being yourself in those moments is all you can do so at some point you've gotta end up meeting someone who is compatible based on your learning process. Keep on truckin' girl! 8 years ago
    • alphabeta oh girl. you deserve a present man. but it's ok to experience this moment with this man, and then release it... there is no there there anyway. xxxxxxx 8 years ago
    • alphabeta is this for real? 8 years ago
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