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  • BBLOKE I think I may be on the verge of divorce, I really don't want that. We have a little boy who is only one year old. I've known there are things we needed to work on but I had no idea my wife was this unhappy , she told me she doesn't love me right now. When she told me that I got angry and said some stupid things. She told me she hadn't been happy since before our boy was conceived. Why would she bring a child into this? 2 years ago   *   11 replies
    • TDOG You both did it... Have you been in denial? That's what was happening with my husband. 2 years ago
    • splitter Did you make ends for the shitty things u said? Helps to clean up our side of the street. 2 years ago
    • brooklynblue Blaming her?? :( 2 years ago
    • RAN Maybe she wanted a child. With or without you in her life. You may, or sounds like maybe not, crucial to her new world. So realize you're not the center of her world anymore. As long as it's not postpartum depression... 2 years ago
    • want2bhappy Get to a counselor, I'd say. Individually for both of you and couples too. Good luck. 2 years ago
    • BBLOKE Ok, so neither of us should have been trying for a child but I really didn't think our problems were so serious. We had petty quibbles much like our friends who deal with them, sort them out and get back to being happy. The turn around has been drastic. Post natal depression did spring to mind, I've asked our doctor about how to spot it. The doctor knows her but even she said it was hard to tell as my wife is quite a guarded person in public. It seems the only way I can know for sure is to get her to see a professional but she doesn't want to do that. 2 years ago
    • 12345 didnt think of post-partum but could be quite real. 2 years ago
      • BBLOKE The good news is that we're in counseling, only had 2 sessions but she isn't really putting her heart into the homework exercises. During the sessions she seems to engage though. Has anyone here managed to save their marriage this way or using any other techniques? Any recommendations? 2 years ago
    • BBLOKE OK, she quit counseling, looks like she really has had enough. It also looks like she may have been seeing someone else for quite a while. Kinda sucks but that does make it easier for me to let go. 2 years ago
    • BBLOKE Now I just need to deal with being a single dad. 2 years ago
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