- YSoob I'm in one of those kinds of relationships where friends and family would describe it as fucked up. We are constantly going back and forth with it being over one month and then great the next. Either miserable or just fine. We have two kids in the middle of it and I can't decide if I'm making a mistake by staying or if I would be making a mistake that I would later regret if I left for good. I'm not particularly attracted to my husband, never have been, married him because of his charm I suppose, but even though the sexual attraction is lacking, I do love him and he's a good guy and a good dad, but I just feel like we are complete opposites. Like oil and water. And we kind of drive each other nuts, more often than not. how do you leave someone you've been through so much with and experienced so many things with though? I don't know, Just feels like we don't click. But making a final decision like this is kinda scary, maybe that's why we have all the back and forth.