- angela77 I've been married 9 years. I married the first man who ever paid attention to me. He treated me well, meaning he didn't physically abuse me. He has a great family, which I never had. I was never in love with him. I just settled and figured he'd do as well as any other guy. He, on the other hand, was deeply in love with me. Looking back, I think I wish we'd never gotten married. I never, ever felt anything more than an affection for him for treating me better than I'd ever been treated before. I don't think we've ever had much in common and truth be told, he's always annoyed me. I'm at a point now where I'm entirely emotionally disconnected and no longer interested in being married. Not to this man or anyone else, I think. He knows I'm unhappy and he's trying to work on himself, because he's neglected me for most of the our marriage in order to spend time doing things he wants to do. I felt like he was avoiding me because he'd go do something after work and not come home until I was about ready for bed. I think it's too little, too late, and I really, really don't want to be married any longer. I'm just trying to figure out the best way to go about the process of separating and divorcing and making it as amicable and respectable as possible.