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Labrador
I've been married for 16 years. My wife has always suffered from depression. Early on in our relationship she had an affair. We went through a lot of therapy and got past it. We've had some very good years and some very bad years. She's been hospitalized for her depression twice, most recently two years ago. I've always stood by her and supported her. Earlier this year, she lost her job and has started drinking heavily. When she drinks, she gets very nasty and berates me, she has even abused me physically. I love her and want her to get help and find a way to be happy, but I know that I can't fix her. We have two young children and I'm worried that she might (unintentionally) hurt them when she's drunk. I'm worried that she's not capable of being happy and that if I don't end the marriage I'm in for a lifetime of drama and despair. What I really want is for her to get better and to stay together, but I don't know if that's possible. Depression is a disease, would I be abandoning a sick person, or saving myself?