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  • Idkanymore I've been married less than a year and have already filed for divorce once but canceled it right beforenit was finalized. I literally got pregnant 4 weeks after we got married and now have the most beautiful baby girl. I also have other children who have gotten attached to my husband. The problem is we got married for all the wrong reasons. It feels like I've had to convince myself to be attracted to him from the moment we got together. I stayed trying to "see things through". But everyday I die a little more. The thought of having sex with him repulses me. So I think maybe we can have more of a partnership/friendship only, Ive realized more and more I don't like him and I don't like who I let myself become when i interact with him. He's extremely immature, won't keep a job, has little to no life skills. It's like having another child! I just don't know what to do anymore. Has anyone else screwed up this badly? 6 years ago   *   5 replies
    • Idkanymore It's very complicated and I blame myself for ignorimg all the chances to stop things. 6 years ago
    • Horridwife Don't blame yourself! This sounds very common. It seems to me like women put sex on the back burner because we're not "supposed" to prioritize it, but as my therapist tells me, sex is part of being in love. I don't know if you can be fully in love if you're not sexually attracted to your partner. Don't settle. You can have a guy who is nice to you and who you're attracted to. 6 years ago
      • Idkanymore Even worse, after the first time we had sex I only stayed because I felt guilty but there was just one red flag after another. I had so many chances to walk away, so many times I asked him to move out. I don't know why I trapped myself. I know I don't love him. I knew I didn't. I guess in some ways I felt like I deserved to suffer because of my ill decisions. You reep what you sew, kind of thinking. 6 years ago
        • Crazychef I hear you. I reached a point where I had to be drunk just to get through sex. It's a horrible feeling. 6 years ago
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