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wall-e
Ladies, help!! 2 months ago, my gf of a year and half unexpectedly brought up her needing space and asking for a "break" to clear her mind. She was under a lot of stress from a new job and moving into a new apartment for the first time on her own. We exchanged a few emails over the time, she initiating the first. Last week we spoke on the phone and after a normal call of catching up as if nothing was wrong, she says that she doesn't think she sees herself with me long term and that we are too different, but at the same time says she loves me and misses me, and that things got too "comfortable" and yet began to feel that I was more of an obligation to her and I unknowingly "made" her choose me over her (mostly single girl) friends sometimes. She never shared these feelings with me, and apparently let them build up, when I would have been happy to work through and find a solution.
We always got along wonderfully and she even repeated it on that last call. She claims I was the most amazing and caring boyfriend and that she would probably never find someone like me again. We live in NYC, she's 24 years old and says she doesn't want to feel committed or date anyone.
Is this an maturity issue? Do I just need to completely cut off ties? Isn't a relationship supposed to be "comfortable" after a year? The truth is I love her and want her back more than anything. She's had a few emotional breakdowns from other things (injuries, job stress, friend/family fights) over the time, all of which I helped her get through. I can't help but think this is another one I can help solve...