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  • Danni girl my step daughter is causing a huge part of the stress in our relationship! She throws fits that put babies to shame... she non stop lies and hurts her sister and it has me stressed all day everyday! I know for my husband coming home after a stressful day of work, to a stressful house is not fun but he doesn't realize that I have to live this 24/7 with no breaks... 10 years ago   *   3 replies
    • Karen7142 I have a couple of questions: How old is your step-daughter? How long ago did you marry her father? What is her situation like with her mother? Does your husband talk to his daughter about what is bothering her? I ask all these questions for different reasons. I think that if you consider all the answers you can try to better understand your step-daughter and mend the stressful home situation. I realize that her attitude is putting a strain on your relationship, but try to see things from her perspective. She is young, and her family was torn apart at a young age, and the adjustment into a new family situation is very hard for adolescents. Maybe the divorce (or death) was hard on her and there are unresolved issues and she is acting out in the only way she knows how. Maybe she really is a horror; if thats the case the father should be able to relieve some of the stress on you and set clearer boundaries. 10 years ago
    • AMpr411 Hi Danny girl, I think may be therapy for your step daughter could be a good option, I don't know how is she and how it was the separation of her mom and your husband, but may be she is having troubles being in the middle of two sides. I can tell you that I had that problem with the son of my BF, the mom were just telling the 8 years old kid bad things about his dad and me and my son, (non smart people can do that) I definitely give up, so I don't care what the boy think or my BF, I took my decision of no being around complex people like these, but if you decide to keep your husband I recommend try to help that girl that is asking for attention in the wrong way. 10 years ago
    • Stacy I agree with both of these replies. They both gave excellent advice. I have been in this situation before and it's miserable. The only thing that worked for me was leaving, but I made the mistake of trying to make him take sides against his kids, and that's the worst thing to do. 10 years ago
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