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  • Moving On in ny My wife and I decided to divorce today and my wife want to tell the kids immediately. She refused to go back to marital counseling saying that there has been no change after a few sessions. Any advice as my preference is to try as much as possible to be on the same page when we tell them and have some details worked out. 6 years ago   *   4 replies
    • SVONE maybe write out a script and show it to her? 6 years ago
      • Moving On in ny I thought about that but we have none of the details worked out - living arrangements school and custody. Should at least an outline of that be worked out prior to the speech? Should we let the kids teachers know? 6 years ago
    • Its been over for a long time My advice is to see if you can work out the details before you tell the kids. Custody, money, talk about what happens when someone starts dating, etc. so you can talk to the kids as a united front. Being on the same page with each will help the kids not take the news so hard. Yes - tell the school once the kids know. It will not be easy to transition but for me, it was a big relief when it was finally over. Wishing you all the best! 6 years ago
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