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  • KEVIN New divorce and just feel terrible. Wife cheated and moved out, now what? 2 years ago   *   7 replies
    • brooklynblue Ugh so sorry. Are looking at what got you guys to this place? That will help determine how to get out! 2 years ago
      • KEVIN I'm just trying to get my stuff together and make myself happy so I get to a good place where I'm not hurt again and so that my son has the best life possible 2 years ago
    • exhusband Hang in buddy. 2 years ago
    • dadofthree time to focus on you. get yourself healthy. don't spend all of your time in yesterday. time to move forward. 2 years ago
    • RAN I think I feel your pain, Kevin . Going on 3 months since my wife told me we were done -- after 2 dates with a guy she knew from her past. Now she spends every free minute with him, when she's not at work, or with our kids. Making plans to move in with him, and get a new job… Sure, our marriage had troubles. There were many times I wanted to split up. But now I feel like my best friend of 25 years has just ripped herself out of my life. She has no interest in interacting with me… Except about our kids, or about our divorce. A switch was flipped. There's a huge hole in my life. So I was catatonic for about a month, then just miserable for a month. Now I am a mix of sad, angry, jealous, and sometimes I can forget about it for a while and seem OK. And when I'm with the kids, I cover it up and act normal. Pretty well, at least. Yoga has been really helpful. It gets the vicious circles of thought out of my head for a while. And thinking up and doing fun things with the kids. And talking to anyone who will listen. So yeah, I was miserable in my marriage at times. Why am I not happy now? 2 years ago
    • sara Group therapy -- the best thing I have done post-split. The more you talk about it, the more you will see it wasn't right. It takes two people to be in a relationship, and it won't work if one of them doesn't want it. In NYC, where I live, there are 6 straight women for every straight guy, so the odds are with you (as long as you are not in Alaska). It will get easier. I know and promise. 2 years ago
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