Newbie - Here's my story and would love any feedback from similar experiences. I've been married 21 years and my husband had an affair about 3 years ago. This was 6 months after the birth of our 2nd child. It was with someone 18 years younger than him and lasted about 3 months. He ended the affair after I found out (from texts & pics on his phone) and said that he wanted to stay with me. After several counseling sessions, it came out that while he loves me, he is not "in love" with me anymore. I do not understand this and we have been working on the marriage to no avail. We finally took a break and slept in separate rooms while co-parenting and as of Nov. 1st he moved out to an apartment a few miles away. I gave him an ultimatum date to file for divorce, but I feel I have been very patient and just want to move on with my life. I feel like I'm going crazy with my thoughts and hoping that putting my thoughts down on this site will help me work some things out. Thank you for any help!