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  • OCEANGAL Okay so this is anonymous right? So how do I tell my husband I'm sick of him saying he is going to do things and then refuses to? And yes we've tried counseling...even the counselor gave up on us! UGH. I have a consult with atty next week...I guess I'm just looking for support that isn't wrapped in false sympathy. Thanks. 9 years ago   *   5 replies
    • alphabeta mediator BEFORE lawyer. and yes this is anonymous. no one sees emails.. just whatever username you make up. what kind of things isn't he doing? 9 years ago
    • anonymous1 okay so basically you are saying that this is deal breaker behavior and you are DONE... is this a threat or are you prepared to carry it thru ? 9 years ago
      • OCEANGAL I'm done. He has an addiction to porno. Is probably if not physically cheating then emotionally cheating (he admitted some woman sent him naked photos but swears he doesn't know how she got his number). How do I go about getting a mediator? Right now I can only work part time because we have two kids and child care is so expensive. I'm afraid he will leave not help financially and then we are screwed. This afternoon a comment I made about a car repair set him off...yeah I'm done. 9 years ago
        • TIMBUKTU got it. what area are you in ? google mediator and collaborative divorce and see what you find. many many women are in your situation and get through it. if he is unwilling to deal with this porn addiction and get treatment - then that is his choice... but he has to live with the consequences which include you leaving! 9 years ago
    • tvgnus Viewing porn is NOT cheating. The cheating by your husband are the naked photos. To me, it appears he has been exchanging naked photos. This qualifies as "emotional cheating". Many men and women consider emotional cheating worse than the actual act of having sex outside of the marriage. 9 years ago
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