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  • TRAVELINGKNIFE Our 10 month long divorce is about to be over. I have tried to co-parent with her and nothing is working. Taking the high-road is getting me nowhere, but it's a road I must take. Any pointers on how to co-parent with a high conflict ex? 9 years ago   *   4 replies
    • MARA_JADE Always take the high road no matter how hard it seems. The kids always come first and trust me they will know you are the one trying just by your demeanour and her actions. It will get better with time and continue doing what you are doing cause how counter productive if you both were hostile. You are the better person just know that Everytime you think you can't deal anymore. 9 years ago
    • 12345 this book on Splitsville is a good one http://www.splitsville.com/love/co-parenting-101/ BUT i don't know if it addresses the high conflict ex. that said, i have been down this road and it's REALLY hard. but if the low road and the high road both get no where, then take high road because your kid will respect you and YOU will respect you. 9 years ago
    • jpiggy Continue to take the high road. Over time, you'll see that it takes less energy and it shows your kids a good example of how to respond to conflict. Karma has a way of working into your life!! 9 years ago
    • BELLA J. My ex is a "real piece of work." However, I always take the high road. Over time, it gets better. Plus, there is no conflict because I will not allow myself to stoop to his level. My kids see the example that I'm setting and it helps them to realize that they do not have to react to every negative situation in a combative way. 9 years ago
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