So here is my situation without getting into the "story". Married for 15 years. Have 5 beautiful children from the age of 2 1/2 to 14. 3 days ago my wife tells me she had an affair and that she is pregnant. The baby is definitely not mine considering we haven't had sex in months. She does wants to keep the baby. The "father" is supposedly out of the picture.
I feel that keeping this baby (she is 3 months pregnant) will completely destroy our children.
I can handle the notion of cheating because our marriage has not been a healthy one. The pregnancy and baby without a father and our 5 kids I cannot stomach.
I have committed to being there for my wife as best as possible. I know she is hurting a million times more than myself. Now is not the time for me to be an a-hole. I have accepted 100% responsibility for missing out on countless opportunities to make a difference to our marriage.
Any thoughts, suggestions, or words of encouragement?