So, I am brand new to this site, as you can see from my "help" posts. But I'm on my desktop and it seems easier to navigate as well as type. (cross-referenced under divorce.) Anyways, here goes...I filed for divorce in August. My husband didn't respond to annnnyyytttthiiinnggg. He avoided getting served. Served him last year and he begggggged me that he would change and do whatever it took. Bla, bla, bla. Here we are again. Same twisted circle. I just want out. He is moody, intolerant, insecure, paranoid, oh did i mention he has bi-polar disorder? unmedicated? He refuses to medication (that made him a wonderful person to be around) yet he will do whatever it takes to keep me. what am I some trophy? Do whatever it takes to get me then poof, do whatever it takes to push me away. Who is he anyway? Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde I present to you. I'm sarcastic and cynical. I know. But I am a lovely person underneath. I am forgiving and loving, so loving...unconditional too. But he just kept on pushing me away, unable to see the damage he's been doing all these years. Sad but he is in a deep denial. So jump forward to now. I had a divorce date. It was December 15th, Monday. This past Monday. He didn't do ANYTHING until this past Friday...he got a lawyer. :( I had a divorce date! That is the date that I would have been divorced if he stayed under a rock! I am so pissed. And now he is making my life a living hell. On Monday Mr. Hyde groveled and pleaded with me not to do this to our family. Me? Do this? to our family? I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING but love and forgive him over and over and over again. On Tuesday, today, Dr. Jekyl appeared and ignored me when I tried to talk to him about our son. As usual, he ignored me and acted like I wasn't even there...in front of our son! Tears came and I ran upstairs and cried. I am so many emotions...sad, mad, angry, whatever, pissed, hurt, stressed. Before Monday I was a pig in shit for what was to come. He would be out in 30 days and I would have peace once and for all. And now he is torturing me. He does the opposite of what I ask him to do. Well, he always has but now he's using our son to be the "good guy". Asshole. Is that allowed here? Asshole. I get up and I want to go back to bed as soon as I see his spiteful, irrational, needy face. I want my life back! Now I have to wait until December 24th for him to respond to the settlement agreement. And I'm sure he'll wait until December 24th. Asshole.