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Boogie
So much regret. I've been in "marriage crisis" for about a year. I went through the process of ignoring what was happening, hoping it would go away. Finally, went through several marriage therapists that I fired because all they did was try to let me down easy because they knew she had mentally checked out. I finally get it. But a part of me continues to think she'll snap out of it. And I regret not listening to her years ago when she warned me. Maybe I've been checked out for years or I would have leaned in deeply.
I just met with my mortgage guy, and I'm scheduled to meet with a realtor to get our house ready to sell. I have an attorney lined up for a collaborative divorce. Still living together, getting along the best we can.
We don't have kids, probably part of the problem. We never mentally resolved our fertility problems.
This bandaid has to be pulled off. I'm ready to get my life moving on. I'm glad to find this site so I can vent - it makes it feel better.
For those finding this, give him/her a chance. Make sure they know what you mean and how serious it is unless things change. Listen carefully when the warnings come. Be ready to change. And work hard to love yourself.