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  • thenooge This is the main issue i'm having right now in my relationship: my wife has a job and she's also in grad school, so she's super busy and stressed out. I do have a job, but it's not that great, so i should really be looking for a new one. We still split all the financial obligations -- it's not like she's supporting me -- but she still gets mad and resentful that i'm not doing enough. If I was making a lot more money she would probably be less stressed out, but i don't know how to do that. 10 years ago   *   4 replies
    • TDOG I get that ... Maybe she is just frustrated you aren't working to fulfill your Drea ms? 10 years ago
    • Daryll Definitely look for something more in line with what you are worth. Still, you are contributing. What does she feel like is needed? Are you struggling? Working and going to school is stressful so maybe she is venting on you because she doesn't know where else to release. 10 years ago
    • brooklynblue guaranteed she is stressed and scared... and looks at you wondering... hmmm , is this man going to do what he needs to do to be who he needs to be? 10 years ago
    • Julie Anne If it's a problem now, it's only going to get worse down the road. Do you have a degree? Is it a Masters? What if she goes for a Doctoral?! She might always dangle it over your head if you don't try harder to succeed, do more, make more money etc. You have to decide what you want your life to look like. Do you want HER in your life? Do you even care about money? Are you interested in furthering your career? This might just be a wake up call....It was a good friend who's good qualities made me decide that I wanted to go back to school at 27 years old. Now it's hard to imagine being with someone who isn't at least in the same playing field (hard as that sounds) I think many feel the same way. 10 years ago
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