- Faith When I try to sit down a discuss having and amicable separation /divorce my spouse claims I'm assuming that he's messing around and he's not acknowledging what he is doing to make me feel that way.coming home 2am in the morning,not answering his phone when he's out at 12am or 2 am He never behaved liked this in the 20 years that 've been married until now.He doesn't let me know that he won't be home at his normal time and our children have also expressed their feelings to him. I He's behaving like a single man. I guess it's time to get legal advice