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misterconfusedindenial
HI ALL - a friend sent this to me and i was ambivalent for about 30 seconds and then realized i might as well see what others have to say. i have been dating a girl for about 10 months who im madly in love with - we have this amazing chemistry - the sex is out of control mind blowing - we have a ton in common - we get a long for weeks at a time with little fanfare - spent 9 days together surfing in a remote area again zero issues - OTHER than she was married for a whopping year to a super asshole who was abusive in many ways and then cheated on her. she cut it off immediately and then began her healing process. i came into her life around month 8 - she made it clear that she was not ready for anything serious and that it might take another 6 months to heal - but it was undeniable that there was something special. we knew each other briefly many years ago - and i think she holds a small resentment that i didnt chase her back then - but its now been 10 months and she has broken up with me at least 5 times - each time with a slightly different reason but they are all pointing to that she still needs to heal. i dont know what to do and its not good for me mentally. i love her so very much and im being patient and trying to be the best person - not get irritated and just surround her with love. but at some point this has to stop. its frustrating because its so obvious how good i am to her and she now takes advantage of that although she wont say as much because she is lovingly stubborn but also has an inner possession of being very spiritual - to the point of self righteousness. my therapist thinks she is just immature and needs to buck up and knock it off - but the therapist is also now telling me to move on. i cant. not yet. i have NO idea what to do and im sick of talking to my friends because i sound like a love stricken teenager. its embarrassing. thoughts? i know this was long and i wont blame anyone for not responding...