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MAWglobal
Hi all, I'm new to splitsville.
My wife and I have decided on a mutual split after nearly 12 years of marriage, and 18 being together. Neither of us have been up to no good, we've just fallen out of love. But, it's taken 2-3 years for us to actually realise it, and talk about it openly- it's funny what you internalise and even lie to yourself about, let alone speak openly about with the person who was supposed to be your life-partner. There's no hostility, and we want to keep it that way. There are feelings of mostly sadness, and occasionally resentment, but the latter being transitory through to accepting certain aspects; the fact is we're sure we would have ended up in the same place regardless. So after about 4 months of finally opening up properly to each other, we're much relieved that everything's out in the open, and there's less tension at home; we're at the point where we fully accept it and are trying to work out how the next phase will play out.
Which is where you lot come in :-) Hopefully you've realised by now we're intelligent, well-informed, level-headed and open people. What we want is for our 2 amazing daughters (7 and 9) to be as unaffected as possible by us splitting up, they're happy, bright and clever but sensitive little souls. We're trying to find our path through all this, so if people have any particular hints, tips, experience or just plain old support that they're happy to share, I (we) would appreciate it!
For the record I'm not interested in anyone selling or advertising services- you lot can sod off, preying on the vulnerable, you should be ashamed of yourselves.
Also for the record, from my language you may be able to tell I'm from the UK, so bear that in mind if you're referencing anything to do with the legal process!
Thanks, and good luck to everyone out there going through hard times.