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  • AMpr411 How do you erase the bad memories, do you think is it possible to forget and forgive a man that hurts you and puts too much tears in your life? 10 years ago   *   5 replies
    • SallyAlexis I struggle with this too. Sometimes things seem bearable, other times not so much. My ex was extremely emotionally abusive. Said he had fantasies of me dying of cancer...nice one minute and terrible the next. I don't think we can erase these bad memories, just put them in perspective. I went to a counselor for years and we worked on building my self esteem. I learned that the peace has to come from within, not from another person. Sometimes the good memories are more painful than the bad. Thinking back on the "good years" really hurts. 10 years ago
    • thenooge I agree with the counseling recommendation. Almost everyone would probably benefit from counseling, even if they haven't gone through something traumatic like a divorce or abusive relationship. 10 years ago
    • AMpr411 I did courses, seminars, counseling, therapy a little of everything, to know how to be a better person, I read and I work on myself practicing with every person that I have around to be nice and kind in every day of my life. He hasn't broke who I'm or how I see myself, I'm a strong woman, I know what is appropriate or not in a relationship. The problem is sometimes I feel I could give him another opportunity, but all the bad things he put in my memory keeps me aware, I don't trust him as a couple, yes as a person(because he is not a bad soul), but when I try to give him any chance, he does any other kinda stupid thing, not even realizing that hurt me in the pass. 10 years ago
    • brooklynblue try EMDR therapy 10 years ago
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