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regalone39
I need to leave this marriage. I feel like I'm slowly dying inside. The reason why I haven't left yet us really because of the debt we have. He's going to have very little discretionary income but has more resources and income to help him. I do not and make quite a bit less than him. My plan is to ask him to keep payingthe bills like my car payment, car insurance and cell phone bill rather than paying me to help with the kids. But there is credit card debt that I can't help with once I'm on my own. I'll have very little left over after my bills and groceries. I'm absolutely terrified about the financial aspect of everything. I'm not out to hurt him financially and have no vendettas. I just can't live like this anymore. It is possible to be lonely in a marriage. I can't imagine going like this for another 30-40 years. I was going to try and wait longer but when our son asked him the other day to go to his school carnival and he said no buddy, I'm exhausted. Only to come home with him gone, out drinking with his friends. This is typical behavior unless he's in his room (I've been sleeping on the couch for almost 2 years) playing video games. I can't take it anymore. I have no joy anymore. I'm so much happier when he's not home. I'm just scared of the financial fallout for when I leave. I live in NY state. Any helpful advice would be appreciated.