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  • chloe So how did you do it? For those of you who were the one to ask for a divorce, how did you get up the courage to actually bite the bullet and say those words? Any advice? 9 years ago   *   5 replies
    • exhusband i brought it up in therapy. was too scared to do it without a witness. she was shocked and very very very upset and didnt understand why because i had been so dishones in pretending everything was okay for so long. 9 years ago
    • anonymous1 keep it about your own feelings and out of any blame. like "i feel like i can't ______" and "i want to start thinking about living our lives separately... i need to be on my own, feels like the healthy choice for me right now... etc 9 years ago
    • alphabeta it takes tremendous courage. it's one of the hardest things i have ever done. 9 years ago
    • GREEKMEDUSA I bought it up in therapy too. Best way in my opinion, they are equipped with a red alert button hidden under the desk ( just in case). 9 years ago
    • want2bhappy I started it the day I got back from a solo vacation. I was so proud of myself for finally saying what I had thought about for years. Then after some attempts at counseling, I realized that I was never going to be happy with him again. I told him I wanted a divorce as he was packing for us to leave for a trip. Needless to say...I didn't go. When he returned, I had to tell him again, because he didn't get the message or says he didn't hear me say I was going to file the papers, I was done. That part was miserable. No matter how many times you run through it in your head....it'll be scary and completly different when you actually get the words out. 9 years ago
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