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  • PERILIOUSBEHAVIOR As a mentioned in a previous post, my wife and I are currently in couples counseling. I think sh*t is really going to hit the fan at our next meeting and it might be the beginning of the end. We're going to talk about money, her spending habits and decision to work part-time, and I don't think it is going to go well. We've agreed to wait to have any major talks on the issue until we meet with our therapist next but I am starting to think that maybe hard... 9 years ago   *   7 replies
    • sicknessandhealth it's cool tha you both can honor the decision to wait to talk then. what decisions of YOURS are going to be discussed? 9 years ago
      • PERILIOUSBEHAVIOR Good question! I think we're going to be a lot of conversation around expectation and whether mine are reasonable, or not. 9 years ago
    • exhusband do you want it to be the end? 9 years ago
      • PERILIOUSBEHAVIOR Not sure. In many ways I am scared of what that would mean. On the other hand, I feel like things can't keep going they way they're going and I don't see us reconciling our differences. 9 years ago
    • jimneycrochet sounds like you are making it all her fault? are you willing to look at yourself? 9 years ago
      • PERILIOUSBEHAVIOR This is a good point and something I really struggle with. I try to look at my own behavior and ask her about things that she would like me to be doing differently. 9 years ago
        • PERILIOUSBEHAVIOR Thanks for the excellent observation @Jimneycrochet. I took some time this afternoon and did some work in my journal. I came up with seven things I'm doing that contribute to the problems we're having in our marriage. After looking over the list I realized that the central issue revolves around in differences in expectations. I think that for the marriage to survive we'll both have to be flexible with our expectations. I am not sure that's possible, on my part at least. Anyway, thanks again for the prompts! 9 years ago
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