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  • JENnI How long should you wait after a divorce before you start dating again? I have a friend who is seeing a guy before his divorce is finalized. She says that they are keeping things distant until his divorce is finalized, but I'm concerned that she's going to get hurt- that he's not ready to be in a relationship so quickly after one has ended. My the way, I should mention that my friend is not the reason they're getting divorced. His wife cheated on him several times and finally filed for divorce saying she didnt love him. The divorce has been long and drawn out so I feel bad for the guy and he may actually be over his marriage, but I don't know. I still don't want my friend to get hurt. She genuinely cares for the guy. They have been friends for years and years, way before he was ever married. 10 years ago   *   9 replies
    • TDOG Divorces take forever for many reasons having very little to do with continued emotional attachment . He may have been "done" years ago. Much of it isn't in this guys control.... How long has he been living on his own? 10 years ago
    • SallyAlexis I have heard a year to clear your head. It's been a year and a half for me, and I can tell that I am still not ready. I try, but get scared about getting involved. Maybe I just haven't found the right person. Any thoughts on this? 10 years ago
      • TDOG gotta be honest.... i think its crazy to wait til its final. mine isnt final and its 2 1/2 years later and there is no way in hell i would another year after it was final to date. craziness . i think it should be from the date you move out. 10 years ago
    • Daryll I don't think there is a one size fits all answer to this. Your friend should keep in mind that he is sort of on the rebound so there is a chance it won't last. But no relationship can be guaranteed. 10 years ago
    • dusty1106 You move on and start dating. Just because the marriage is not over does not mean you haven't moved on. 10 years ago
    • AMpr411 Jenni I believe your friend can be with him and see what are his reactions and signals, she needs to dance at the rhythm of the music, I'm agree with DARYLL any case is different. I know a guy, he was married 20 years, he was in divorce's process, his cousin wanted to introduce us but I was traveling, 2 weeks after he was dating a girl and he is married with her, all that in 2 years frame. he is a family man so he was quick finding the next right person. I hear once: "you don't want to be with a person that you love him/her more that what he/she loves you". Your friend needs to be open eyes with this, but it doesn't mean he couldn't be with her forever. 10 years ago
    • Boogie I've been dating a great lady during my much too long divorce process. After a long broken sexless marriage, it makes you feel finally unbroken. It's hard to date and be fair to the person you're dating. Emotions run high when you're going through it. I'm afraid of a possible reboot when its final, which wouldn't be fair to her. 9 years ago
    • TRICKYDIX Not a fan of self-imposed time limits, more than likely the past relationship has been over for some time. Divorce is just the formal ending, time waits for no one and you can’t get wasted time back. If you find someone that matches you I say go for it. 4 years ago
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