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  • CaliRenee I feel like im inthe middle of the room screaming and no one hears me. Everyone serms to be telling me to stay with my husband even tho i dont love him anymore nor am i attracted to him. I dont want to bebwith him anymore. Why cant they understand this?? 6 years ago   *   7 replies
    • Crazychef I know the feeling. Everyone is painfully sensible and if things look ok on the outside and your husband is a good guy then it makes sense in their eyes if you stay together. People around me seem to get uncomfortable when I talk about feelings, they'd just rather not know. I think it's also them possibly avoiding having to look at problems in their own relationships. One of my best friends who is in a very content yet possibly quite unsatisfying relationship is suddenly telling me how all relationships will end up like this, it's just how it goes...despite the fact that before she had her heart broken two years ago she would have been the first person telling me not to settle, to go be truly happy, to believe in true love etc. Sometimes people don't want to listen because if they do they might hear something too familiar. Sometimes people just don't like to see the boat rocked. Either way it's horrible, I know, because it makes you feel even lonelier at an already pretty lonely time. 6 years ago
    • CaliRenee Thank you crazychef!! Its so nice to know someone understands ☺️ 6 years ago
      • TIMBUKTU "painfully sensible" 6 years ago
      • isabel1 Crazychef is on point. Calirenee, look up the word co-dependancy. You said you're screaming at the top of your lungs and no one wants to listen? I feel 100% your pain! let us know how youre doing girl 6 years ago
    • Horridwife I feel exactly the same way. I am struggling right now because I am supposed to try and make it work. But I know it won't. So I'm going to counseling, going through the motions, but what for? To make him feel better for a short while before I leave, which I know I'm going to do. I am tired of listening to other people - listen to yourself. You know you better than anyone else. I'm going to try and do the same. 6 years ago
      • CaliRenee I stayed for 4 years trying to make it work even though I knew it was over I didn't want to hurt him so I stayed even though it was hurting me 6 years ago
    • Jame They probably don't understand because you are still there...they think if it was really so bad, you would have already left. No one can give you permission to leave but you. If that is what you decide, then you have to do it, even if people don't understand. You are the only one who has to understand why you stay or go. But I will that the only reason you are still there? Or is something else keeping you there? 6 years ago
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