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  • ardentdreams I love you but...the sex has declined. Its not that its not good. He lasts. He is strong. Its just I don't get in the mood anymore. Maybe because he wants to do it non stop. I just can't find myself wanting him and its sad. He is attractive but physical attraction isn't enough. Perhaps it is because he isn't mentally stimulating me? 9 years ago   *   11 replies
    • brooklynblue respect is sexy. for women at least..... what can you ask him to do for you that would increase your respect for him and thus your desire? 9 years ago
    • Karen Kozlow have you ever tried a night at a hotel? the app "hotel tonight" offers great last minute (like, tonight) discounts, maybe you could try that out on a friday or a saturday... 9 years ago
    • AMpr411 Ardentdreams, making love is an art, some people they don't realize it yet, I think couples needs to keep fire always up, mentally and physically, games, dating, innovating as two people meeting first time, but of course take two to tango, I would say talk to him and start a naughty plan together, being accomplice, I think if you can be very honest with him, you both could do a list of things that turns you on or off, share it and compromise in modify together the new behavior. Good Luck, have fun and do something before its too late. :) 9 years ago
    • thenooge Foreplay? Watch a porn? Have him do something for you that he normally doesn't do? If it's just that you've gotten into a routine and it feels "stale" there are ways to spice it up. But if it's that you're not emotionally attracted to him, maybe there's a bigger issue. The best thing to do is to talk honestly about it, maybe go to a marriage counselor. Counseling isn't just a last resort; it might help with a variety of issues before it's too late. 9 years ago
    • ardentdreams We have done the toys, roleplay, porn, etc - all of that is so boring to me. I just want him to simply make love - not just worry about his own satisfaction, clean me up, get off and go back to playing his video games. It's sad that I have to plead with him to just show affection. Thats all. Nothing extra is needed but he is selfish. So I just go along with it and he seems happy enough but each day my wants is dwindling away. Counseling would be awesome. That's possibly my last chance before I see this relationship go out the door. Thanks for the ideas! 9 years ago
      • Unsure If you do decide on the counseling I wish you all the luck. Unfortunately I've been there too and eventually you just become numb, complacent, and resentful. It's not a good place to be, mentally or physically. 9 years ago
    • 12345 ARDENT DREAMS!!! what's the latest? 9 years ago
    • london I was having this problem recently, any changes yet? 9 years ago
    • dynamic Wow, has nobody actually read what was said. The issue isn't sex, it's a lack in mental stimulation! Suggesting anything sexual is futile and merely a temporary fix to the clearly stated underline problem. The only sexual thing that would satisfy her is sex from a man who has mentally stimulated her. Then she'll be back in balance in terms of simulations: mental, physical, emotional. 9 years ago
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