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  • ardentdreams I love you but...the sex has declined. Its not that its not good. He lasts. He is strong. Its just I don't get in the mood anymore. Maybe because he wants to do it non stop. I just can't find myself wanting him and its sad. He is attractive but physical attraction isn't enough. Perhaps it is because he isn't mentally stimulating me? 10 years ago   *   11 replies
    • brooklynblue respect is sexy. for women at least..... what can you ask him to do for you that would increase your respect for him and thus your desire? 10 years ago
    • Karen Kozlow have you ever tried a night at a hotel? the app "hotel tonight" offers great last minute (like, tonight) discounts, maybe you could try that out on a friday or a saturday... 10 years ago
    • AMpr411 Ardentdreams, making love is an art, some people they don't realize it yet, I think couples needs to keep fire always up, mentally and physically, games, dating, innovating as two people meeting first time, but of course take two to tango, I would say talk to him and start a naughty plan together, being accomplice, I think if you can be very honest with him, you both could do a list of things that turns you on or off, share it and compromise in modify together the new behavior. Good Luck, have fun and do something before its too late. :) 10 years ago
    • thenooge Foreplay? Watch a porn? Have him do something for you that he normally doesn't do? If it's just that you've gotten into a routine and it feels "stale" there are ways to spice it up. But if it's that you're not emotionally attracted to him, maybe there's a bigger issue. The best thing to do is to talk honestly about it, maybe go to a marriage counselor. Counseling isn't just a last resort; it might help with a variety of issues before it's too late. 10 years ago
    • ardentdreams We have done the toys, roleplay, porn, etc - all of that is so boring to me. I just want him to simply make love - not just worry about his own satisfaction, clean me up, get off and go back to playing his video games. It's sad that I have to plead with him to just show affection. Thats all. Nothing extra is needed but he is selfish. So I just go along with it and he seems happy enough but each day my wants is dwindling away. Counseling would be awesome. That's possibly my last chance before I see this relationship go out the door. Thanks for the ideas! 10 years ago
      • Unsure If you do decide on the counseling I wish you all the luck. Unfortunately I've been there too and eventually you just become numb, complacent, and resentful. It's not a good place to be, mentally or physically. 10 years ago
    • 12345 ARDENT DREAMS!!! what's the latest? 10 years ago
    • london I was having this problem recently, any changes yet? 10 years ago
    • dynamic Wow, has nobody actually read what was said. The issue isn't sex, it's a lack in mental stimulation! Suggesting anything sexual is futile and merely a temporary fix to the clearly stated underline problem. The only sexual thing that would satisfy her is sex from a man who has mentally stimulated her. Then she'll be back in balance in terms of simulations: mental, physical, emotional. 10 years ago
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