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  • Candy82 I thought I could trust him, but then he goes away for 3 days on 'business' and doesn't even check in. I looked at his recent activity in our bank account and I see he's been entertaining at strip clubs.... ugh. WTF do I do? 10 years ago   *   11 replies
    • dusty1106 When you two got together, was there ever an agreement about whether or not going to a strip club was considered something inappropriate to be doing while in this relationship? 10 years ago
    • Danni girl If it does not make you sick to think about this, maybe you should try going with him? It can be a big turn on for some couples?? 10 years ago
      • TIMBUKTU i think dusty1106 has a legit question. some men go to strip clubs with other men to be "one of the guys" but it has little to do with any real intrigue outside the marriage... that said, it isnt a good sign :( 10 years ago
    • Daryll I would take some comfort that the strippers probably didn't give him anything more than as show. Still, if it really is a business move, he should be able to talk about it. I don't what the history of the strip club question is with y'all but he should come clean if it is harmless fun. 10 years ago
      • Danni girl I agree that if he has to hide it than he feels guilty and is doing it for his own selfish reasons.... if he did not feel he was doing wrong he would not hide it! 10 years ago
    • SallyAlexis My ex would do the same thing...go away on a trip and not call to even tell me he go their safely. Days would go word, and I was home with two small children. Years later I found out he was sneaking around to peep shows and who knows what else. It really interfered with our physical relationship. I would confront him. 10 years ago
    • AMpr411 Hi Candy82, I don't believe make sense for a man to go do business at a strip club, they could go to a bar or a restaurant, I don't know what type of job he has, but I don't think its very respectful; a man that needs to go to those types of clubs without you.. Some Men tend to be very machos and believe thats right and I think those types of men should be singles forever and not being around a good woman. I would say rethink if that's the type of man you deserve or you want in your life. Good Luck dear. 10 years ago
      • Karen7142 I totally agree with AMPR411... rethink the kind of man you want in your life. Or...go out to a bar with your girlfriends, flirt it up, come back late and see how he likes it!!! 10 years ago
    • Unsure Talk to him 10 years ago
    • justdone Candy, is going to a strip club cheating? That's debatable. What's not debatable is your husband certainly thought so, otherwise he'd have said to you "G'bye honey, I'm off to the strip clubs." You have a man who's not only willing to cheat on you, but in his own mind, he is cheating on you. And the fact you have no idea where he actually stayed during those three days says he was probably engaging in the traditional definition of "cheating" as well. 10 years ago
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