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  • Myrna I was married for 20 yrs when I found out my husband had been cheating on be and had been for 10 yrs. He was living with someone else for 2 yrs. He worked in another province and was only home for winter. He told her we were separated and was staying at his moms when he was home. It has been 5 yrs now and we are divorced. My last child has moved out and I am I always thought when this time in my life came we would be a couple and could travel. Our kids were close in age. 20, 21, 22, and 23. Now it feels like I have no one. He still lives out of province and has a new finance. They recently got back from Mexico for the second time. I feel like this should have been our time. I haven't dated since him but feel like if I don't he will think I still want him but I don't. 9 years ago   *   11 replies
    • dynamic The question is have you gotten over him? Who cares what he thinks, however your actions could be interpreted that you have not moved on. We create our own realities, so if you don't want feel alone, start dating. Yes, this is stating the obvious and the dating game has change a lot in the last 20 years. Still this doesn't change the fact that may be the needed action to fill that space. Of course, the events you choose to engage in don't have to be dating. You can always volunteer or go and explore the world yourself. Along the way you may get your groove back. Don't punish yourself. We all deserve what we get, so unless you feel you deserve to be alone, go get some companionship. 9 years ago
    • 12345 lamenting what SHOULD be happening is no good.... take an awesome trip on your own! your kids are gone..... go! so many amazing things to do, climb machu pichu.... and maybe look at the denial mechanisms that were at work in your marriage that allowed you to turn a blind eye as this man was clearly not truly present for you for YEARS....... 9 years ago
    • Downtherabbithole You should absolutely put yourself out there. This is your time, forget him. Forgive, forget and move on. Reclaim your life and have fun. Go on a vacation somewhere maybe a single type of vacation/cruise or resort. Just leave your baggage at home and be willing to have some fun. Date someone else and lose yourself in someone new! 9 years ago
    • BeautyQueen He is obviously not the person for you myrna. Please try to find some happiness in your family and friends. I know it may not be the same, but do not be afraid to go out there and meet new people! 9 years ago
    • stuck Travel by yourself! Find travel buddies! Just think of all compromises you won't have to make :) 9 years ago
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