- 2bhonest I'm wondering for those who've made the split, how much do I share about my feelings (lack of physical attraction)? My main issue is that I do not have chemistry with my husband (of 10 years), it was always 'manufactured' from the start. There were points in my marriage where I thought our mental/emotional connection were enough to create some form of chemistry, but now I want the real thing. I am ready to have the talk with him about splitting, but I want to do so in a compassionate way. I fear telling him that I am not attracted to him will bruise his ego. Do I need to be concerned with that if it's my truth? Not sure just how honest to be with him, but feel I owe it to him to be forthcoming, and answer any questions he may have to be clear. Any advise is appreciated.