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  • leaving2soon My wife may be a sex addict... she wants to do it several times a day, and if I discourage any of it she gets pissy. I like sex but c'mon, I'm not 18 anymore. How about a few times a week? Once a day even? I want to balance priorities in my life, and I just don't think constant sex should dominate my time... and I realize how ridiculous this may sound to some of you. How much is too much? 10 years ago   *   7 replies
    • 12345 1 x a day seems like a lot quite frankly. when do you work and raise kids etc? or no kids? how long married ? 10 years ago
    • jimneycrochet this is what i call a "champagne problem" but definitely worth seeing a therapist together to discuss. one thing I've learned from my own experience is do the work now before it gets ugly. it may get ugly anyway but at least you've put in the work... 10 years ago
    • Unsure Tell her to masturbate 10 years ago
      • metoday2015 That would definitely undermine her sexuality and her needs. Unless he participates in the masturbation as a compromise, and she asks for one a day only instead of three. That's a relationship: compromise. 9 years ago
    • metoday2015 I would suggest your wife just experiences sex in a different way than you. It is not wrong r right, but it is the fact. She wants more, and you want less. Again not wrong or right, just a fact. Sure see a counselor over this and perhaps you can both get to a compromise so you can both feel satisfied and validated in your sexual needs. That is if that's what you want. While I m not therapist I ma not sure about the sex addict thing. Sex addicts hide their addictions, that is the nature of sex addiction. Sex addiction is based of shame, guilt and trauma. And they usually don't have that much sex with their partners. I would say she just has a very high libido and wants you a lot. Again a therapist may be able to help more. The other thing could be cultural (and I don't know about your wife), but in latin countries, sex once a day minimum is the norm and no one would expect or want less. Don't feel bad for h er being different or you being different, just address it openly and respectfully so you both feel heard and understood. 9 years ago
    • plasterdust Wow, I haven't had sex in over a year so obviously I'm mildly jealous but in reality 3 times a day would be a full time job and require creativity to keep things fresh and interesting. Curious, after a full year since this post were you able to compromise? 9 years ago
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