Well so here I am... 50 y.o., married almost 20 years, mom of 2 teenagers. I've been deeply unsatisfied in my marriage since nearly the beginning. At this point, with the exception of the children we have absolutely nothing in common and quite honestly we don't like each other very much. He would deny that, but even I don't like who I am when I am with him. We seldom fight anymore, mostly because I have given up communicating with him on all but the most practical matters. What time is dinner? Who's picking up the kids? Things like that. We are basically house mates (we do not share a bedroom for sometime now). I think staying in a marriage that is not demonstrating love, friendship, respect, teamwork is the worst possible message we can send our kids, and it is not how I want to spend the rest of my life.
My husband is not a bad guy. In fact he's a nice guy, that's what makes this so hard. I told him I thought we should separate. He disagrees and has basically said that he has no where to go and is not leaving. So now what? He won't leave, we are not working toward improving our relationship. How do I take the next step... what is the next step... How do you talk to your kids about this?